I've waited a month to get the nerve up to ask others this question; Something I'm ashamed of and maybe others are too. The only time I shower is if I have to go to the Doctor. Before I was put on these medications (they're listed on profile) I would take 2 showers a day! and wear makeup! Now it's as if it doesn't matter. Am I still Depressed??? Should I tell my New therapist next week??? Anyone else ever experience this??? Please be honest.
Depression; If you never leave the house, do you find it hard to wash your hair and shower often?
Question posted by Sue 4 on 7 Dec 2013
Last updated on 19 February 2024
Thank YOU all so much!! The Dr. has me taking 75mg Wellbutrin Twice a day/ and Pristiq 50mg once a day; In addition to all the other medications you read on my profile. My question is now; Do you all think this is a good combination of drugs to be taking? Most likely No, If this severe problem I have is depression. I've always been too ashamed to even tell my Dr. or Therapist. You guys are the first; God Bless each and every one of you for helping me find out what my problem is. I'm not thinking clear at the moment, I've been awake almost 36 hours, it's hard to explain. I think I should take a few notes with me (for the first time ever) to my Dr. and Therapist app. next Wed. I need to stop hiding things out of shame. You all are my true friends.......I cry as I type this.
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Hi Sue,
Oh yes, depression will cause this for sure. Yes, you should tell your therapist so that he/she knows where you are at in your depression so you can be treated as you need. If a full shower is too hard just sponge bath everyday so you get back into the habit of better hygiene until you feel better, Don't worry it will come it is just really slow getting over a depression. Also depends where you are in the depression. I had two major one hospitalised twice for those. I was so bad that I would start washing and could not remember if I washed my hair or not, I would get confused what I had just washed. When I got better and started to go home on weekends I even had trouble shaving. I forgot how so don't feel bad that this is happening just go with the flow it will come back when you start feeling better and getting over your depression. I pray to the Lord Jesus that you will be healed from this depression quickly and get your life back on track.
Sue I also want to mention it is nice that you found us to trust with your questions but you really need to open up to a therapist you feel comfortable with so that she/he can help you with your needs like depression. If you don't share everything about your depression you will not be treated properly. And for the ones of us that have suffered with this you really want to treat it the right way ASAP.
Dear smileyhappy, May God Bless You and your Family for taking the time to help me. I have helped others my entire life. That's what has always made me happy. Giving and helping anyone. For the past 6 years I haven't been able to do that. My App. is Wed. I promise, I will tell the Dr. and Therapist everything and not be afraid. A long time ago I had so much joy, I smiled all the time. 2 years has passed without being able to even smile or laugh. Last Dec. My sweet Husky got sick, (large growth on her jaw) I thought it was cancer and she was going to be put down. I had made plans to kill myself, never in my life had I ever considered such a horrible thing. With a gun. Knowing I wouldn't go to heaven, and my brother and sister-in-law took me to the hospital. I had been 6 long months, all my medications had ran out and could not get in to see the N.P. to get refills.
Also found out my thyroid (TSH) levels were really high 14.9!! Which causes depression, brain fog, and everything else. I'm so sorry, I only planed to write you 3 lines. Thank you so much for praying for me! <>< Yours In Christ, Sue
Hi Sue,
Yes, get your Thyroid checked by an endocrinologist if you can. They study the Endocrine system. I was hypothyroid and just had a thyroidectomy in 2012 because of Cancer. I am fine now. So one day at a time try to not get overwhelmed o.k.
Smileyhappy Lynne
Poor personal hygiene is the number one sign of depression. If you're on medication, I'd say it's not working.
I can remember days I did nothing or just a quick sponge bath. Never any makeup, even if I had to go out. I am fortunate that I am so much better because of the right meds, a good therapist and prayer. I am back to showers, washing my hair, makeup and even ear rings. There is hope
and a good future. Never give up.
I have struggled with this issue for years. There is nothing to feel ashamed about. As you can see there are many people who struggle with this too. I have been in your shoes and talking to my therapist helped alot. I hope you are able to talk to yours and just be honest and tell him/her how you have been feeling. I like to take a bath with candles and some good music try something that makes you feel relaxed and maybe that would help. Take care of yourself and know that you have people here that care about you :)
I have a 9 to 5 job, and I struggle with this on a daily basis! I think I've developed a pattern that I made for myself while I was severely depresSed. Its important to not so that. That being said, this is what I do, I will buy a new shampoo or soap that I really think I'll like, I will take a long bath instead of a shower, maybe not wash my hair every time and try to make the experience as enjoyable a possible. Try this and it may not cure you, but it will make you hate it less. Lol
Hi Sue,
When one suffers from depression hygiene isn't that important for different reasons, one being as you mentioned, it doesn't matter to us for various reasons, maybe the depression has us feeling very fatigued, tired, or depression can give us a feeling of I don't care. Who am I going to be around anyway, whats the point nobody cares about me anyway (that's the feeling of worthlessness with certain parts of depression) Whatever the reason you should absolutely tell your therapist as at times this can mean your depression is getting worse.
I hope you feel better soon,
pamee
Oh Sue 4 - you are writing part of my story. B/c someone opened up to me earlier, I am going to open up to you now, You are not alone!! I have many medical problems and it is physically difficult to even leave the house. And I don't, unless I have no choice, and even that requires days of planning. I get so tired so easy, in a lot of pain, and when I must leave home, even for just a short drive to grocery or pharmacy, I do everything I can days in advance, including showering the night before so all I have to do is get dressed and leave. Glasses hide my eyes, so I am down to a fant lipstick that doubles as blush so I don't look so sick. I am ashamed to admit this, but I have gone as much as a week or more without even getting out of bed except for restroom. It is a big day for me to shower AND wash hair, then put on clean pj's. My housemate does a lot of errands for me like p/u rx's and a lot of times the grocery.
I only go when I need something I am embarrassed to ask him to get for me. I have been sick for a very long time, but, totally disabled since 2004, and every year I fall deeper into the painful issues that just seem to keep coming. My family knows I am sick, but, they live in another state and don't realize how bad it really is. You are not alone!! I understand what you are saying. There have been days, (today one of them) that I had to go to pharmacy. Haven't showered since Tuesday. Showering, dressing, doing hair and make up and I would not make it out the door, so I simply jumped into a pair of jeans and headed out the door. Back in pj's, and ready to curl up in bed. I am being as honest as I can be. There are a few people who may be shocked when they read this, but, that is okay. I bare my soul to you so you will know you are not alone. Some days when I do HAVE to go out, and I have done things ahead of time to prepare, I usually find that it was nice to get out, even if the only person I speak to is a cashier at some store. I understand, hon, I am living it this very moment!! Will be glad to talk to you and help in anyway I can, even if that is just giving you a place to let your feelings out... Hope to hear from you... *big hug*
I started having panic attacks in the shower so I started only showering when I had to then I got to the point where I wasn't gonna let it control me so I started showering every other day until I got that under control. I still have panic attacks while I'm out doing something or knowing I have to go to the dr or something else. I too suffer from depression and it's a terrible thing. Your not alone.
Yes Sue fighting depression this is very common we don't care about our regular needs,PLEASE TELL YOUR THERAPST NEXT VISIT this is a good sign that whatever you are taking you are still showing signs of deprression or
could be you have not been on it long enough some of the meds can take 4 to 6 weeks to work but it is importaint to tell you therapist next time you go..this is very comman do not feel bad about yourself dear we just loose the care of ourselves and how we look good luck my friend it gets better Chuck1957 retired pharmacy technician Cpht.
Yes, what you describe sounds like symptoms of depression. I would definitely discuss with your therapist and doctor. Sometimes the first choices of medication for depression aren't the right ones for us. Thank goodness there are many to choose from until we find the right one(s) for us.
I am the same way. I just think to myself why bother, I have no one to to be beautiful for besides the dog and tv so just save the energy for when I " have to".
Hey my friend i have been there are you still seeing a doctor sounds like you are also depressed this is lots of times the most comman start please let your doctor know it does get better i have been there chuck1957
My doc won't put me on anything yet until I'm off my pain meds from my back surgery. My ins won't cover pristiq and that's the only one that helps me..
I am so glad I'm not the only one. I am really hard on myself at times, and this is something I really beat myself up about. I have never told anyone.I just don't care, I'm on Zoloft, it has helped my depression. Not so much my anxiety. Glad to hear from others who have this too.
Thank you a Sue 4 for this question. To looks like you are not alone and have helped others share and feel safe to share their feels as well. Hope your having a great day.
Your friend
Brenda
Glad you found some strength from this. Hope it's helpful meds. Please never be ashamed.
This has been a problem for a while. I had a psych doc, but was not comfortable sharing w/him. I have a great PCP, but I'm embarassed to tell her. I think I am also afraid of getting comitted if I tell. I have always known this is a symptom of depression, I kind of feel like I would embaress my family-even though most-Dad,Mom oldest son, are all with God.I beat myself up over this on an almost daily basis. On the other hand, I don't care, except to be ashamed. I think I may hold the record for going the longest w/out hygiene. Thanks for listening.
I wish people would not be embarrassed or ashamed of being human. If we were all "society's diffenition of "normal". This would be one heck of a boring world. I don't think they can commit you for not keeping clean, only maybe if you have bugs crawling out of you. Sorry trying to make a silly.. Glad your talking about it now. Have a great day!!!
Thanks!!
Someone said that Pristiq is the only med that works for them. This is true for me too, and it is very expensive. Medication can only work to a certain point and it is not working now. I get some of my meds through through mail with "Brands. ... Something and it is cheaper, but expensive.
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