i been with this guy for 14 months now and recently there has been rumors that hes using drugs heroin and I was in disbelief cause growing up I saw so much of it I figured I'd know the signs and since he works late nights when I see him half the time he's exhausted and I thought it was due to lack of sleep however he finally admitted to being on pills dan,dan, xanax and volumes all of which I know nothing about except that they're downers I think so he claims he's not doing it anymore and that he's never done heroin however I see many changes in him and so randomly one day I bought a home drug test I made him give me a urine sample in front of me and he passed the test but I still believe he is using his behavior is really weird, am I wrong? Could he have done something to pass the test? If he were on any of those pills would it have come back positive? Someone please help :(
I dont know how to determine if my boyfriend is on drugs I feel so stupid someone help?
Question posted by angiebruno1 on 20 July 2010
Last updated on 20 July 2010
3 Answers
It sound to me like methamphetamine . Is it prevalent in your town? He will not tell you the truth if he is using anything because he knows how you feel about it and if you test him he will find ways to avoid it and that is how you will know. Where there's smoke, there's fire. People don't usually talk about drug free people who are regular Joe's or they would get beat up quite alot by those people. Tell him who you heard those rumors from and see what he does then. Just my opinion - we have alot of crank around here and that is what the behavior looks like. They also use xanax to come down to try and get sleep and look normal but they sweat alot and do not have any energy without it. Get out now if you are not prepared for a life of being a nurse or supporting someone elses drug habit. Good Luck honey.
It is prevalent in my town very much so, however the drug test I gave him tested for methamphetamine and it came back negative I didn't wanr about the test I went and picked it up and went to see him and made him give me a urine sample in front of me I don't know what I would do and how to go about it if I found out for a fact that he does in fact use some kind of drug I know I care about him n love him dearly however I have 2 children who are my priority and I will not allow this in their lives I know something is up with him I'm just not sure what it is and no matter what I say or do he does not admit to doing anything he says no no no yet he has so many of the signs this is driving me crazy and I don't know which way to go stressed and confused
What signs are you talking about - is he tired or jumpy irritable. Are you doing everything to convince yourself that he isn't on anything because he passed a test. Did you actually collect the urine sample? If he lied once about drug use and knows how you feel he could do it again. Ar you supporting him in some way financially for him to lie to you or does he support you and your two kids? I just know that a change in behavior like that is consistent with drug use but if you are convinced he's not then he should see a Dr. asap. I know what heroin and crank users act like tho so let me know if you have anymore questions. htwooh
He works and supports himself I take care of me and my children and their father is very much involved in their lives. I did actually take the urine sample myself well not literally but as he gave it I stood and watched what I mean by his actions is that yes he's very irritable he's sleepy all of the time he works nights so he'll get to his house and sleep for hours 7-8 hours then wake up and go back to sleep then while at work he's tired and tells me he gets some sleep while he's there as well and on weekends which are. His days off he's tired I guess I want to believe that he's not on anything especially because of the negative result to the drug test however this isn't normal and I know he's also anemic he's always been however I don't believe he should be looking and acting this way also he like to pick on his face a lot I need more advice I need to vent I don't know what to say do or think
It's meth. Get another test for mathamphetamine and test him again. If he's picking on his fact that's what I would say. Sounds like he's not getting enough meth if he's tired all the time. How do you know he's sleeping - could he be somewhere else and just tell you that? If not then he really needs to go to a Dr. he sounds really sick to me if he's not on meth and even if he is -= both are bad!!Sorry my opinion.
The drug test I gave him tested for that as well as for cocaine weed opiut it came back negative I'm just curious if there's anything that he can be doing that perhaps doesn't show up in a test? Another thing sexually a lot has changed as well does that make sense? Naive me :(
The only thing I know is switching someones urine for someone elses but it sounds like you watched him so I guess you have ruled out drugs if that is, in fact true, that you actually watched him pee. He couldn't do anything on the spur of the moment and if he was that willing then he's probably O.K. He must be sick. Go to the Dr.
If you are absolutely sure you took the test correctly and it was negative and you watched him pee then don't assume the worse. You really don't want to believe it anyway so assume he is ill and make him go to the Dr.also if his libedo is off (sex drive) that could mean alot of things too. Go to the Dr. hon. If he is sick he will be glad you took him and while you are there they can do a drug screen just to ease your mind.He won't mind that because then he will be vindicated and he can get well..
If you are absolutely sure you took the test correctly and it was negative and you watched him pee then don't assume the worse. You really don't want to believe it anyway so assume he is ill and make him go to the Dr.also if his libedo is off (sex drive) that could mean alot of things too. Go to the Dr. hon. If he is sick he will be glad you took him and while you are there they can do a drug screen just to ease your mind.He won't mind that because then he will be vindicated and he can get well..
I'm sorry you have asked me severeal times if he could be doing anything that is not on a drug test. Look at the test and the categories. Most drugs perscription or stret drugs will be listed in those categories. I have only purchased one test and it was about $65 that tested for everything. He isn't huffing paint is he? Those are real noticable signs but I have only seen that on TV - I think it dos so much brain damage right at first that he couldn't funtion very well. Anyway there could be some perscription drugs that may not show up on a test, maybe soma or some sleeping pills. I don't know who would take sleeping pills all day but you never know. Ask him to be honest with you again and if this is still driviing you crazy then get out because you will always feel this way about him.
I am going to inquire of my son and see what he thinks.
I don't know how to help him I want to help him I love him I don't want to leave him but I also don't want to be with someone who has a drug problem and is going to always be lying to me I have my kids to worry about. I'm so stressed I don't know what's right anymore I don't know what to say or do or ask :( thank u for all of ur responses its greatly appreciated and has truthfully made me feel better to just be able to vent
You have to think about your children and you have to help yourself. If he is on drugs then you absolutely can't help him if he doesn't want it and if he is sick get him to the Dr. Good Luck and glad you got this out of your system.
This is the problem with drug addiction - the family gets as sick if not sicker than the addict and you aren't even sure which is what is driving you crazy. You need to go to Alanon. Call - look it up in the phone book and get to a meeting - even if it turns out he isn't using you really need the support of others who feel this way.
Wow you sound more like a probation officer than a girlfriend:) thats good though that you have him on a tight leash you must really really love him. Have you checked out his body im sure you would see sores on his body from shooting. In your heart do you really feel like he is using? what would you do if he was would you get him some help or leave him? ive talked to another lady with the similar problem except she knew he was an addict she didnt leave him till it hit home. Unless you warned him about the drug test there is no way he could have covered it up! Its really all about how you feel about the situation i mean these people may be saying this cause they are jeoulous of your relationship together you know there are haters out there that dont have a person in their life to love so they want to break up your happiness. Again go with what you feel and know let your heart guide you it will let you know what to do.
I'm not trying to be a probation officer though I just feel like I'm left no other choice and inquiring caring minds want to know therefore I seek my answers :-( he's lied to me once before regarding this issue he said he wasn't doing anything and he was now he says he's not anymore but his actins are that of someone who is in fact still on something and I really don't know what else to do is it me bugging out because he's done it before and he's lied about it and so now I see it as he's still doing it when in fact he can actually just be tired I know if he's using heroin its not be shot up I think he may be sniffing it although I'm leaning more towards him taking pills pose to any powder sniffing which it is still in fact a narcotic and to me has the same type of reaction. I do know all about the haters at this point its not the rumors I'm listening to its what I see with my own eyes. confused hurt and torn
Ok.Angiebruno1. I think those tests that are over the counter at the drug store can be drug specific. What I mean is that on the box it would say this one is for marijuana this other one is for uppers and this other one is for opiate (heroin) drugs., so yea its possible the drug test you got was not for the one he is abusing. Sometimes you should trust your instincts. What I mean is you notice something is different with him. You care about him so that would be a very important thing for him and you to talk over. There may be many different things other than drugs that would cause erratic behavoir. I would stress that you care about him and that maybe if it is a very strong difference from the normal way that he is then a Drs visit may be in order.just to get a check up about that and just in general.Just because you are young doesn't mean you shouldn't have Drs checkups? I hope I am not assuming to much here. But he did pass one test so maybe a Drs visit wouldn't hurt.
I have sat with him and expressed all of my feelings to him and he only denies being on any type of drugs he gets highly upset when ever I do mention anything about drugs, the test that I bought was testing for marijuana, opiates and about 3 other things I figured those were the things to look for. He will not go to a Dr no matter how many time I ask him to he has an excuse for everything when he's next to me he won't look me in the eyes he's irritable fidgety sweaty he does the knee buckling thing I've heard him talk to himself he will not stop cleaning and pacing back and forth its sort of weird cause while he looks like he's on a downer he acts like he's on an upper I just wish I knew how to handle this once he passed that test I had to apologize for accusing him yet I still strongly believe that he's on something I'm so determine to prove it I just don't know how to thank u Bnagoh for your response its greatly appreciated please if u have any other suggestions or any advice it would be just as appreciated as the last response.
Hi Angie, It kind of seems like your man is very nervous. Could it be a possibility that he has panic disorder/anxiety attacks?
Just a thought.
Best wishes to you,
sweetlemon
It can be very possible that he in fact may have some kind of panic/anxiety disorder but does this mean that he may not be using and the reason for his action is due to anxiety? I'm so confused. :-(
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